Lessons In Leadership: What I’m Learning From My Father

By Tracy Murphy

Around 2001, I was in my early 20s and had recently  given birth to twins when my Dad, Tom Schriber, invited me to tag along with him one afternoon for a visit to KidWorks. We arrived at Townsend Street in central Santa Ana. At the time, the “center” was a one-room apartment converted into a classroom where dozens of kids could safely receive homework help from staff and volunteers.

Here I was, apprehensive, nervous and a little scared to be out of my safe Newport Beach environment.  I’d never before spent time in such an underserved neighborhood. As we walked up to the classroom, I saw a neighborhood defaced by gang graffiti and where poverty was rampant. My eyes were as big as saucers!

I also saw exactly what my Dad wanted me to see: an opportunity to serve.

“Anyone can write a check,” my Dad told me. “And while that’s important, there’s something more I want you to learn. Be hands-on. When you do that with time, talent and resources, you’ll know you’ve done good.”

My Dad’s KidWorks journey began in 2002 when his business partner, Dan Donahue, died unexpectedly. In Dan’s memory, my Dad and colleagues helped raise over $1 million to build the original Dan Donahue Center. Since then, he and his wife, Jill, have helped raise funds, sponsor Mater Dei scholarships, provide wise leadership and much more.

My Dad planted the seed that led to three generations of our family being part of the KidWorks story:  himself, me, my husband, Kevin and our four children, McKenna, 20; JT, 20; Taylor, 18 and Reiley, 15.

Together, we’ve supported the annual Foundation for Success luncheon, cooked Thanksgiving dinners that we delivered to central Santa Ana families and filled Christmas stockings with gifts. My husband and I also serve on the Festival of Chefs Committee. As a mom, I couldn’t be prouder when my daughter chose KidWorks for her school project to learn more about the non-profit world.

I share this story about our family not for recognition, but with humility. The Murphy’s are a family of deep faith in God, and we’re inspired by Proverb 22.6Direct your children onto the right path, and when they are older, they will not leave it.

To say it another way, my wish for your family is also to experience the joy and opportunity of multi-generational giving.

Whether it’s a dollar or a million dollars, one hour a month volunteering or a hundred hours—multi-generational giving is a legacy that can span across every generation of your family.  Including those yet unborn!

I, and then my children, grew up hearing about KidWorks from my Dad. When COVID-19 hit, we became more aware of the many inequalities that exist for many Orange County families. We wanted to help even more. We jumped in to participate in the weekly KidWorks’ food distribution program. It was awesome to have the chance to serve together as a family.

I believe with all my heart that there’s a place for every family within the KidWorks family.  I know you’ll be welcomed with the same love and gratitude that we received on that first day–and each day thereafter. Just think of the multi-generational family legacy you’ll personally inspire!

(Editor’s note:  The Schriber/Murphy families have generously supported KidWorks across three generations. We are honored to share Tracy’s inspirational story of their family’s journey over nearly 20 years, walking alongside KidWorks in countless ways. Tom Schriber is one of the founders of Donahue Schriber, a private real estate investment trust. Tracy is his daughter and serves on our Festival of Chefs Committee. The Murphy grandchildren volunteer at KidWorks.)

Virtual lock-in shines a light of hope for youth during the pandemic

COVID-19 forced our annual lock-in to be held virtual, however, this new format allowed staff to creatively reimagine the event to include fun and meaningful activities focused around social and emotional well-being.

The event’s theme, “Finding Light in Darkness” resonated deeply with both students and staff. Like in previous years, the lock-in included lots of fun with not a lot of sleep.

“Anxiety and depression have definitely been on the rise and some KidWorks students are experiencing fatigue while others are becoming more frustrated,” says Cynthia Gomez, Youth Lead, After School Programs, who conceptualized and managed the event with Rachel Cervantes, Program Leader at our Dan Donahue Center, who also oversees KidWorks University workshops.  

“Students may feel that COVID is robbing them of traditional school functions, activities and experiences that they were looking forward to enjoying,” Cynthia adds. “The Lock-in provided several mental health activities that focused on essential coping tools. Students learned about self-awareness and the importance of identifying one’s emotions and thoughts, plus how to connect with people they trust so they are not so isolated.”

All of the virtual activities included a social and emotional well-being component. Dance parties and workouts encouraged students to move their body and spa time and manicures encouraged students to love the skin they’re in. Tie-dying shirts, playing games and laughing with friends were equally as important for our students to laugh and make memories with their friends.

Several meaningful discussions were held about the power of connecting with people during COVID. Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist Libni Cortez, shared with students tools to help navigate their emotions.

Libni also answered questions submitted anonymously by our students that touched on some of their most pressing challenges during the pandemic.  Stress balls and fidget spinners were provided to students thanks to our friends at Cal Optima.

 John 8:12 and the “Lock-in: Finding Light in the darkness” theme was perfect for the 2021 event.

“We shared the verse in the beginning of the event and Libni ended her speaking portion with additional Bible verses,” Cynthia says. “She also reminded our students that they can always pray to God and read the Bible because there are so many verses that give hope and encourage friendship.” 

Cesar Ledesma, a KidWorks’ Program Leader, led a body scanning session, described as a way to “listen” to one’s body and then use meditation and other techniques to cope and relieve stress.

Another creative way for the students to get in touch with their feelings was an exercise during which they picked words/phrases that describe what they felt in 2020. At the end of the night, some of the words/phrases listed were:

At the end of the night after all the activities, students identified meaningful words for 2021 describing their hope for the coming year.

KidWorks thanks the many volunteers, supporters and staff who made the event possible through time, talent and resources, including:

  • Libni Cortez, MFT (Marriage and Family Therapist)
  • Bboy Don, Saint City
  • CalOptima (who donated supplies and gifts)
  • Shelly Manjarrez, Sr. Community Relations Specialist, CalOptima
  • Pilar Quezada, intern
  • Allie Rock (Allie Ramirez), disc jockey
  • Young Professionals for KidWorks volunteers.

The Lock-in provided a springboard for future social and emotional well-being discussions and activities at KidWorks.

“KidWorks’ programs will continue to focus on self-awareness and self-management as a way of providing students with coping skills,” Cynthia says. “These will be taught along with leadership lessons. Self-awareness and self-management let students realize they have more control during the pandemic than they realize.”

The KidWorks’ team is already dreaming and planning for the 2022 lock-in.

 “We’re excited about the 2022 lock-in event and optimistic about the possibility to once again have our traditional in-person all-nighter with no sleep, but endless fun and inspiration,” Cynthia says.

By Glenn Leibowitz, volunteer writer

When Jesus spoke again to the people, he said, “I am the light of the world. Whoever follows me will never walk in darkness but will have the light of life.”  John 8:12

KidWorks Volunteer of the Month: Allison Wong

Allison Wong, our February 2021 “Volunteer of the Month” was born to volunteer. She’s been doing exactly that since she was 11-years-old. At that age she even wrote and self-published a novel and used the proceeds to buy toys for children at a local hospital.

Now a sophomore at Orange County School of the Arts, Allison has volunteered at KidWorks for almost two years, tutoring elementary school students and developing their creativity through art-related KidWorks University workshops.   

Allison is majoring in creative writing, and she brings this passion to KidWorks University, which offers a curriculum of volunteer-led workshops focused on art, science, music, dance, creative writing and more.

Allison’s workshops for our junior high school students are focused on bullet journaling, which Allison describes as “dotted journals similar to planners but which are totally customizable.”  She’s been bullet journaling since middle school.

“With a bullet journal, the students can draw calendars, set agendas and establish personal goals,” Allison says. “There is endless room for creativity and imagination in terms of structure and decoration.”

Allison is always thrilled to share her love of creative pursuits with our students.

“I’ve always loved art and have used it to express myself and tell stories through painting, drawing and creative writing,” she says. “During my workshops, it’s so gratifying to see the excitement expressed by the students. I provide markers, stickers and colorful tape for them to use as a way of decorating their bullet journals. This makes them want to continue journaling and they often return a week later with new journal pages they created on their own time.”

“I admire Allison’s patience and kind spirit,” says Rachel Cervantes, Program Leader at our Dan Donahue Center, who also oversees KidWorks University workshops. “She always makes sure that everyone is up to speed and provides students with the resources needed, even if that comes at her own expense. Allison goes above and beyond the role of a KidWorks volunteer.”

Allison has been able to quickly adapt when the workshops and tutoring moved to an on-line format due to the pandemic.

“Allison is consistently a ray of sunshine on Zoom sessions,” says Jacky Hernandez, Program Assist/Program Leader at our Donahue Center. “She dives right in, even willing to talk about difficult topics with our students. She also joins in on the fun with our students during recreation times.”

Our February “Volunteer of the Month” shares her creativity with KidWorks in other meaningful ways. She formed a service-oriented club at college whose goal is help underserved women and girls by providing them with essentials, such as sanitary pads, hand sanitizers, deodorants, combs, soap, lip balms and more.

“The club’s name is womxnwurld,” Allison explains. “The word ‘womxn’ is a term that’s now often being used to be inclusive of all women and distinguishes them from men, showing that we can be strong on our own merit.”

The club now has 11 members who are focused on generating donations, increasing awareness and seeking opportunities to give back. 

Like its founder, womxnwurld also has a strong creative side. Their specialty is hand-made jewelry, particularly butterfly charms.

“Our logo is a butterfly flying around the earth,” Allison explains. “The butterfly symbolizes growth, change, strength and beauty, much like those we are striving to empower. These are great gifts for the girls at KidWorks. They deserve it!”

“In addition to the hygiene items that are increasingly vital during the pandemic, the jewelry adds the gift of cute accessories that really brighten a girl’s day,” Allison says.

Along with time spent at school and volunteering at KidWorks, Allison is also employed as a content editor for a start-up company.

As for her time volunteering at KidWorks, Allison says that she “enjoys every minute of it!”  The entire team at KidWorks and all those we serve feel exactly the same about you, too, Allison. 

By Glenn Leibowitz, volunteer writer 

Student Spotlight: Breida

  • Name: Breida
  • School: Santa Ana College
  • Grade: College Sophomore
  • Years at KidWorks: 16
  • Favorite Memory at KidWorks:
    Attending summer camp at Yosemite Sierra. That experience stretched me; I had never been away from my family. Although I was homesick, I’m glad I stayed. A staff member selected me for a leadership role amongst my peers which helped me grow mentally, spiritually and emotionally stronger.
  • Why KidWorks is important:
    KidWorks has always been there for me! When times got really tough , they convinced me to not give-up. Instead of dropping out, they helped me transfer schools so I could pursue my nursing degree.The staff helped me recognize and overcome many difficult obstacles over the years. During COVID-19, KidWorks even provided me with a working laptop when mine broke and couldn’t afford repairs or the cost of a new one.
  • Dreams for the future:
    My passion is to make my community a healthier place. I am busy pursing my nursing degree with a focus on pediatric oncology. I have been volunteering at CHOC Hospital and recently got a job providing COVID tests to residents in Santa Ana.

The community surrounding KidWorks faces many obstacles and other at-risk factors. KidWorks’ donors and supporters make a real difference. Because of their generosity, students like me won’t become dropout statistics and instead develop into lifelong contributors to the community.

Breida

KidWorks Volunteer of the Month: Delilah Vaca

So, she’s renewed her internship with KidWorks four times serving 160 hours over 18 months both in-person and via Zoom interactive platform.

While Delilah will be the first to tell you that KidWorks’ mission is serious, being part of the journey is lots of fun.

She shares that, “Volunteering at KidWorks is different than what I anticipated because I thought we had to be serious with the students. But we actually get to have fun, participating in games and activities, plus assisting with tutoring and their classroom projects.” 

Delilah’s internship is made possible through the Santa Ana Unified School District’s (SAUSD) Career and Technical Education (CTE) program. The district and KidWorks are longtime partners on behalf of central Santa Ana students and families.

“CTE is a program of study that involves a multi-year sequence of courses within multiple industry pathways that integrate core academic knowledge with technical and occupational knowledge to provide students with a pathway to postsecondary education and careers,”

Herman Mitchell
MPA, Professional Internship Instructor, Segerstrom High School–Career and Technical Education, Santa Ana Unified School District.

Mr. Mitchell says the relationship between SAUSD and KidWorks “is one that transcends the norm.”  He adds, “Over the past few years, the internship relationship with KidWorks has allowed our students to grow both academically and professionally, giving them the opportunity to be engaged in a program that serves the youth and the community. The staff at KidWorks far exceed other organizations in our area in that they serve as mentors to the next generation of teachers and educational leaders.”

Mr. Mitchell sees the strong character and heart for others that Delilah brings her internship responsibilities.

He states the following relative to this outstanding student:  “I have known Delilah over the course of the last year and find her to be an outstanding student, leader and mentor to those that seek her counsel,” he says. “As an intern she has exceeded expectations and embraced the responsibilities and challenges presented to her.  Her tenacity and focus when employing problem-solving techniques and strategies are noteworthy in overcoming obstacles in a challenging environment.”

Mr. Mitchell adds the following, “As Delilah goes forward at the end of the year in pursuit of her college degree, there is no doubt that she will succeed.  She possess integrity, empathy, character and a work ethic rarely seen among her peers. It is truly an honor to be a part of her journey.”   

 During her year and a half as a volunteer and intern, Delilah has been part of our afterschool programs at the Dan Donahue Center for kindergarten and first graders. Before the pandemic, she assisted with homework and helped improve students’ reading skills.  

After in-person learning became impossible due to COVID-19, Delilah jumped right in through Zoom on-line learning sessions.

“The challenge of online learning is not being able to be there physically because some students do have limited internet access and others have difficulties learning online,” Delilah says. “The rewards of the online after school program is still seeing the students smiling and happy to see us. Even though they are going through a pandemic along with everyone else,  they are still excited to learn, even if it’s online.” 

Delilah’s approach is “gentle, comforting and inviting,” says Rachel Cervantes, Program Leader at our Dan Donahue Center, who also oversees KidWorks University workshops. “She has a soft voice that really assures the students and makes them feel very confident.”

Adds Rachel, “When we had our college talk with the students, Delilah was so encouraging because she shared her high school experience and all of her dreams as she is getting ready to transition to her next adventure. I remember how the students’ little eyes grew so wide with awe and admiration because they couldn’t believe they had a volunteer who was in school like them and was almost finished!”

Gerardo Magaña, our Senior Director of Volunteer and Leadership Resources, describes Delilah as “a bright and mature young leader who has grown in her confidence during her time at KidWorks.”

After she completes her senior year at Segerstom High School, Delilah plans to attend Orange Coast College, pursuing a double major in baking/pastry arts and child development.

In her spare time, Delilah enjoys spending time baking creative and tasty deserts. In fact, this enterprising young person has even started a small baking business of her own. 

Whether it’s through on-line learning or in-person tutoring, KidWorks is deeply grateful for the way Delilah has been such an inspiring role model for our youngest scholars. As a baker, she knows the perfect recipe for academic, leadership and spiritual success.

By Glenn Leibowitz, volunteer writer

KidWorks Youth Advocate For Safe, Sanctioned Skate Park

Did you know that the International Olympic Committee has for the first time included skateboarding as part of the Summer Games at Tokyo, Japan, in 2020?  A group of five KidWorks’ youth are especially excited about this addition.

They comprise the Youth for Active & Safe Communities (YASC) committee within our Youth Empowerment Network (YEN), a group of dedicated teens who develop, design and address issues that impact themselves, their families and their neighborhoods.

The five students are:  Jose Arguello, Melissa Guerrero, Irma Mateo, Edwin Ruiz and Evelyn Torres.

Skateboarding has been a key area of their focus for over a year now, says Maria Ruvalcaba, our Youth & Community Engagement Coordinator—Active Transportation.

“Active transportation—such as biking, walking and skateboarding—is how many of our youth get to school, appointments and other destinations,” Maria says.  “Being physically active is part of our advocacy for healthy diets and exercise.”

The five youth in YASC do much more than spend time on their skateboards.  They have become proactive spokespeople for sanctioned skate parks in Santa Ana.

“Santa Ana has just one skate park within the entire city,” Maria says.  “Our goal is a skate park in each of the six wards within Santa Ana before the Summer Olympics kick off in 2020.”

To that end, YASC has spoken before the Santa Ana City Council, Parks and Recreation Department and met with other elected officials.  They have also partnered with such skateboard advocacy groups as the Tony Hawk Foundation, Action Sports Kids Foundation and OC Ramps.

In October, Edwin Ruiz spoke at a walk/bike conference in Sacramento, where he shared his perspective that the streets are often dangerous for skateboarders, whereas skate parks are safe and sanctioned environments.

“My passion for skateboarding has grown ever since I noticed that it brings youth together as a family as we encourage each other,” Edwin says.  “This has motivated me to work on improving our streets and adding more skate parks to keep other youth like myself active and safe.”

“Funding for five more skate parks is far from finalized, yet our youth are committed to working through each detail and taking every step,” Maria says.  “Their latest effort is a detailed data gathering project within neighborhoods to assess attitudes and preferences by the community relative to skate parks.”

Maria says that in addition to skate park advocacy, the experience is providing our youth with valuable training in leadership and team work.

“Skate boarding can suffer from a less than positive image,” Maria says.  “I think our YASC youth are doing a wonderful job changing that undeserved image.”

 By Glenn Leibowitz, volunteer writer